Did I miss 1060

While travelling during Christmas, I sat next to a man who was trying to make it to his connecting flight.  In fact, most of us were.  As fate would have it, the weather wasn’t trying to cooperate.  He needed to catch his flight in Philadelphia and make it to Florida to catch his ship.  We were sitting a seat apart.  I was in seat C and he was in seat A.  When they announced our flight would be delayed, we hadn’t left the terminal.  They hadn’t moved the walkway.  The pilot, in no uncertain terms told us we might be delayed for more than an hour.  All of us groaned – except the family headed to Bermuda for Christmas.  The crew on our flight was the crew for the Bermuda flight as well.  So – no worries there – they weren’t going to miss their plane.

While I sat there, the man next to me made calls.  He called his friend – who happened to be in Boston and was pretty much in the same predicament.  Delayed.  He called the airline to see if he could get a workaround for the flight.  No haps. But I know he said he needed to be there by a certain time.  We’ll say 2pm.  While it was 8am, we were still sitting at 9am.  A missed connecting flight and you never know when the next one will be.

I asked him – where are you sailing to?  I was wondering since it was two days before Christmas, was he headed on a family trip?  A private boat? A special cruise?  Neither.  He was trying to catch a tank liner and sail out to sea with them.  He would be gone for three months.  You see, he’s a marine engineer and was headed out to study the way the ships operated.  First hand experience at the mercy of the crew.

All I know is that he knew they weren’t planning to wait for him.  So even though that was December 23 – 17 days ago, I’m still thinking about him.  I wonder if he managed to make it.  When the plane landed in Philly I wished him luck and prayed he would get to his connecting flight and make his way.

I thought about him as I was wondering the same thing – wondering did I miss MY boat?  Am I really THAT late?

It’s difficult sometimes when you’re not where you want to be.  Maybe you missed out on a job offer or opportunity.  Maybe you made the wrong decision and lost big.  Maybe you are seeking something you can’t quite hold in your hands.  I know for me, it’s the things I can’t quite hold in my hands.  It’s also that moment when you look at how others are doing and we wonder – what am I doing wrong? Is it me?  Or is it that it’s not part of the plan for me?  Am I not working hard enough?  Smart enough?  Then to make it all worse, finally, you’ll (read I) will wonder – am I good enough?

It’s not difficult to take those moments and wonder – did I miss the boat?  Was I supposed to be at a connecting flight and didn’t get there?

I don’t normally write in real time, but maybe I should.  I don’t have a lesson here… just to share with you that even when you think someone might have it together, they’re wondering if they are on the right track, on time.

Maybe my flight companion made the boat that day.  I’m hoping he did.  I’m thinking I’m at least close enough to the dock that I might be able to make an official run for it and still make it.

But what happens if I did miss it?  Right now, I don’t know.  I believe that’s where overall strategy comes in.

I hope to have the answers for it soon.  I’ll still keep you posted.

Sending you love and a light-filled weekend.

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17 thoughts on “Did I Miss the Boat?

  1. trinityizreal

    Rae!!!! This is so embracing – I’m not sure if you have officially selected your ‘F’ word for 2014 yet, but my vote would be your word, ‘flow’. You’ve been writing several people’s lives, lately! And although I think you’ve been doing that since the beginning – please keep at it. I think it’s okay that we don’t always have an answer and that we are honest about feeling our way through things; this seemingly helps with accountability, too! Since you’ve included my life in this beautiful post…let me tell you how I posed the following question on FB earlier: ‘have you ever felt like you know your location but you still have felt lost?’ Thank you for doing it/publishing it/sharing it now! I’m never been where I suppose I should be for my age but maybe I’m just always playing the comparing game. I am also an over-thinker and I’m sure that adds to my, sometimes, excessive despair about where I stand (and/or what I stand on – foundation)….as always, I’m rambling. Thank you for always being thought-provoking!

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    1. Rae Post author

      LOL!!! I always appreciate your comments because you make me think, show me a different side – never rambling. I know about being lost. Knowing the location, but not knowing how it fits into your position. Meaning… I may know I’m in DC but I don’t know which way I’m headed, my direction or if I’m facing east, etc. For some reason, I have been writing people’s lives. Funny enough, it used to be like this years ago when I would post long comments on FB! Maybe I’m catching up and actually showing up when I’m supposed to be in the specified location? I pray so….

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      1. trinityizreal

        You pray so; it seems so to me! You are learning lessons and teaching others from them – I think that, that confirms that you’ve learned the lesson (that you didn’t miss the boat or that even if you did, that you won’t miss the next one for the same reasons). You write people’s lives because you write truth – and that stands (even if someone relates to it years down the line – that’s why you can go back, re-read, and get yourself in order!). Thanks for sharing in real time, I gather that it’s okay that I don’t know ‘all’ the answers right now, when I, sometimes, think I should – from your honesty.

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  2. Eva

    “It’s also that moment when you look at how others are doing and we wonder – what am I doing wrong? Is it me? Or is it that it’s not part of the plan for me? Am I not working hard enough? Smart enough? Then to make it all worse, finally, you’ll (read I) will wonder – am I good enough?”

    OMG. It is like I have these questions on repeat in my head. All that and the kicker… ‘What’s WRONG with ME?’ It is good to know that it’s not just me. I actually find myself about to miss the boat, and then instead of running for it, I just say EFF it and start walking, or turn around and go home. You always make us think, then comfort us like some good hot tea and fluffy socks, with a big hug on the side. Like trinityizreal said…”embracing”. Looking forward to your next post as usual!

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    1. Rae Post author

      LOL!!!! You know I have just said eff it a few times and was like – I’m not running. Maybe I’ll wait for the next one….oh…is that a ship over there? Let me go over to the next one. I try to think through it all just like I have you guys over here thinking. Most times as Terry McMillan just said in her speech and paraphrasing, it starts with “why do people do such stupid things?” Myself included.

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  3. JustPeachy!

    We all have these thoughts at different points in our lives I think Questiong ourselves, thoughts and actions. Don’t even talk about the comparisons we make with other people’s lives against our own.
    I just try not to get caught up in all the analyzing and judging myself. We all will travel on different roads, veer off in many directions. Some paths may be smooth or bumpy as hell, as long as you get to where you need to be. Road blocks happen for a reason and to teach us life lessons. I remind myself of that when those “what if’s ” pop up in my mind and take comfort in knowing I am on my own time. If you pay attention you will get there when.you are suppose to. Not early or late but on time.

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    1. Rae Post author

      You’re exactly right – the questioning, the comparisons. In some ways, I think it’s futile. I do think we all have to process through it. But whew!!! Those comparisons?????? They really get you don’t they? Your point “road blocks happen for a reason and to teach us life lessons.” is golden. I’d like to think I’m on time. Every now and again, I can’t help but wonder if I’m early or late… or what. LOL…. thank you so much for commenting and stopping through!

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  4. dbaham

    Great post, Rae!! I’m glad I finally took the time to come on here and check you out. I think one of the most untalked about (I know it’s not a real word, but go with me here) feelings that most ambitious people feel is a worry about missing the boat. But whenever I feel that way, I try to remember what a good friend of mine told me one day — that life is like a bunch of puzzle pieces sitting around on your floor with no template to help you piece them together. It can seem daunting. It will be frustrating. But if you just keep at it, you’ll start to see it all come together. And when it does — ohhh emmm geee, it’ll be the most amazing puzzle (life) ever.

    PS: I fully plan to peruse your blog now and leave comments all late and ish. Please don’t mind me lol

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    1. Rae Post author

      Hey now!! Thank you so much for stopping by the blog! It really is something many of us don’t talk about. At all. I mean I sometimes feel like I missed the 8am, the 10am…. then the 3pm and the 5pm. You know? But I do think it’s something ambitious people have a hard time with….

      Your friend is right about the puzzle pieces. I do think it comes together. Even though it may take a while to notice it. Once day there are only corners. Then there’s the middle and then you actually start to see it come together.

      I’m so glad you stopped by!!! I really am!!! I’m going to peruse on through yours as well!!!! <3

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  5. Maris

    I’m not a tattoo person, mostly because I have never found a symbol, word, phrase or shape I’d like to look at for the rest of my life. At a particularly daunting period last year (mostly because close to nothing I strived for in 2013 panned out, but that’s a post in itself) an Arabic phrase got RT’d into my timeline:

    “My heart is at ease knowing that what was meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.”

    Now this of course doesn’t mean that I sit back and wait, but that I take comfort in the knowledge that as long as I do the work, and do my best, and get out of the universe’s way, what is meant for me (which may or may not be what I was working for) is coming, will come, and I will be happy…because I was happy before it came. This is much easier typed than practiced, btw.

    One of my old bosses enjoyed a fulfilling career, a thrilling marriage, an exciting love-live post-widow-ship and a far more active retirement than logic would normally allow. She has braved Machu Picchu, ridden camels, donkeys and elephants, boated down both the Grand Canyon and the Amazon, and has a multiple-country long-distance relationship story that would make Jackie Collins blush. None of this began before she was 38.

    The best time of my life is ahead. So is yours. In the meantime, at least I found a tattoo I can live with.

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    1. Rae Post author

      Thank you so much for this Amaris!!! I honestly believe that as well. I would have rather paid for it all upfront. On the back end things are too expensive.

      I love hearing stories like this so much!!!! I will surely continue to hold this close as the year continues to go on. I really am excited about getting older, getting things done.

      I love the quote as well. I may have to steal that and paste it on my vision board. You’re right about something else as well – I may be happy, I may be planning, but what the Universe and God may have planned for me could be much greater than I have planned. I think sometimes our own experiences (or lack thereof) can hinder the ability to see past what’s right before us.

      Love love love love love this comment…. thank you again my friend.

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  6. darrkgable

    It seems like right when I’m going through some bull (either externally or internally caused), I come across something that puts stuff in perspective. This is such a ‘something’.

    It reads like an old-school church sayin’…”what God has for me IS for me.” Nothing and nobody will be able to deter what He has in store for a person. That being said, all we can do is trust and hope that the desires of our heart coincide with what He desires for us.

    Did a boat get missed? Who knows, but just maybe the boat that’s suppose to be caught hasn’t arrived at the dock yet…

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    1. Rae Post author

      Thank you so much B! I do believe what God has for me is for me. I think I may just be waiting on the boat. I don’t feel like I’ve missed it most days – mostly because I realize there are so many others gathered in the same place. Thanks my friend!

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